How can I make myself a more interesting in conversation? During this particular pre-election period it is getting harder and harder to express my opinions. It’s close to impossible to find common ground with most of my coworkers and fellow golfers. Essentially, they act as though it is open season on expressing their honest opinion with favored regaling stories based — and debasing my candidate — on hearsay, knowing full well who I am campaigning for and against.
Conversations are a tug of war. Don’t get me wrong, these are people with whom I usually get along. However, the election is all anyone can talk about. Unbelievably, its only June and I have to deal with these people for the next five months or more. Too often I find I’ve been bated into a debate.
–Anonymous, Watch Hill, RI
- Your adversaries don't seem to be shy about riding on a band wagon. Don't you have a quirk or two of your own you could bring up? "Are they ever going to fix the erosion to the fifth hole on your local golf course?"
- They are good storytellers and listeners because they lead lives filled with spontaneous curiosity.
- Being curious makes you naturally happy and easier to be with.
- At the end of the day, it's about more than having interests, it's about truly caring about them.
- Be empathetic by being a good listener.