My question is about how to ask mourners to pay their own way at the post memorial service reception.
How do I put it in a nice way that after my sister’s Memorial Service that the family would like everyone to join them for a bite to eat or have a drink to celebrate her life and add in that they have to pay for their own drinks and food? I don’t care for the word “Dutch” so I’m not sure how to word it properly….It will be announced after the service is over and just don’t know how to word it…
- The Dutch are stereotyped as being stingy or tight fisted. That isn't the case here, because the only way you can make the gathering work is if people pay their own bill.
- This is not a big deal.
- People are used to being asked to pay for their food and drinks.
- You're offering to organize the get-together. You're giving them the option to come for a drink and possibly stay for lunch, but they will be paying their own bill.
- Your closest friends and relatives should help you to get the word out.