My 83-year-old father and I are going to visit some friends of his in NYC for the weekend. They are also in their 80’s. They are kind and unpretentious but formal about manners and etiquette. For example, when I saw them earlier this year, I noticed that every time the wife enters the room or gets up from the dining room table, her husband stands up until she sits down. I feel compelled to stand up too. It’s old fashioned and polite, but I find it awkward. Do my father and I have to stand up every time too?
–ES, Chicago, IL