I’m wondering what constitutes good table manners?
We are three healthy married couples who for several years have met for dinner every other month at a different restaurant in Brooklyn. One of the men in the group doesn’t automatically stand when one of the women arrives at the table late, nor does he stand when one of the ladies returns from the restroom. The other man and I stand up and one of us pulls out her chair for her to sit down. He doesn’t budge even for his wife — until he notices he’s the only man down.
I think by now we unwittingly stand to annoy him. I can’t say I’m proud of myself, although I would like him to stand up for my wife and pull out her chair when I’m across the table from her. I enjoy showing the wives respect. At any rate, I’ve noticed that the other man and I have been slacking off about jumping up in fear of humiliating him further. Is this a slithery slope?