What is the best way of going about giving a toast?
After toasting the host at a party the other night, I was mortified when the person next to me reprimanded me for the way I pinged glasses with her. She said the real way to clink after a toast was to make eye contact. She went on to say, “The French become suspicious of you if you don’t made eye contact while toasting.”
Never before had I even considered that making eye contact clinking flutes was a prerequisite to toasting. Is it really?
–Ava, Dover, Delaware
- In some cultures making eye contact is considered impolite.
- Even in the USA, you'll find that certain people avoid eye contact - period. Especially Native American and Native Alaskan cultures.
- Also, many Asian do not adhere to the practice of going eye ball to eye ball.
- In cultures where eye contact is made only among their peers, eye contact could be considered rude or arrogant coming from someone from another cultural level.
- In much of America intense continuous eye contact - unless it is during an intimate romantic moment - can be interpreted as odd or even hostile.