As a white-shoe lawyer, I’ve gone from never having been to a therapist to recently taking on two very different therapists and I’m wondering if this is proper etiquette?
Neither knows about the other.
Originally I had three referrals. Didn’t like the first one and very much liked the second and third ones equally. I can’t decide who I prefer. So I go once a week to both and discuss the same issues.
One therapist is a straight intellectual. The other is a gay man like myself and consequently we have similar lifestyles. I feel that these two male psychotherapists are a good balance.
I would never play one against the other or divulge to one what the other said in response to a question or issue.
Do I have a moral obligation to tell the two men about the other?
- The therapist you tell first about the other will feel morally responsible and tell you that the confidentiality exception needs to exist for him to talk to the second therapist.