Do I sound like a prude but isn’t it a turn-off when a text or email signs off with kisses? It seems vacuously emotionally incontinent. Some weird challenge. If she ends a text XXXX do I have to match her XXXX to show I feel the same way? And if I don’t feel like giving her four kisses and only type two XX or three XXX will she feel stung? What are the consequences of not matching kiss for kiss? For me XXX is the common definition of highly pornographic material, so it makes me laugh. And the widely used XXOO in Chinese slang means sex.
–R.E., Palo Alto, CA