Our oldest family friend had a baby when we were in our mid-teens. Nobody knew but we and her parents that she was pregnant and had to give the baby up for adoption. She was sent away to have the baby and came back when she had “lost the baby weight.” Since that time, for the past fifty years, our friend has been plagued with physical aliments not resolved by dozens of operations; she is a semi-invalid. The quality of her life seems unfair for someone who is such a genuinely good person.
We’re wondering, if we helped her reunite with her child would it alleviate some of the physical-emotional pain that our dear friend (and possibly her first child) endure because of the adoption? How do we politely offer to find her long lost first child?
We know the first name of her daughter (named after one of us), the name of the adoption agency, and the important dates. Our friend is married to a different man and they have three adult children. However, we feel that she would like to know about her first child — the one she unwilling gave away. If it will make her better, we’d like to reunite mother and daughter before what could be her last operation. Are we totally crazy? The killer is that she is a really great mom and wife. That’s what she is: a great mom.
–Anonymous, Rhode Island