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What is the funeral reception etiquette for asking people to pay for their lunch at the luncheon? We cannot afford to feed anyone other than ourselves after a graveside memorial service. A family member suggested we should organize a luncheon at a beloved restaurant after the service and let everyone know in advance that they are welcome to join us, but they would have to pay for their own meal. How do we put that in the invitation/announcement?
My mother-in-law stipulated that she did not want a formal funeral reception. We thought of having a potluck luncheon in our home, but the list of people wanting to attend the funeral is growing and our home is small. We struggle to make ends meet monthly. The idea of asking people to buy their own meal is fine and the restaurant holds many memories for my husband, as it did for his mom. I can’t think of a kind way of saying, “Buy your own meal, if you want to join us in the invitation.” Should it be done?
The invitation, centered on a card or email and substituting your own information, could go something like this:
The family of Alice May Brown cordially invites you to mourn her death cheerfully at a dutch treat luncheon in her honor at her favorite family restaurant, by paying for your own lunch instead of sending flowers.
Immediately following the 11:00pm graveside memorial service we hope you can meet us on Thursday, July 18th at the Blue Heron Restaurant, 228 Valley Road, Minneapolis. MI.
RSVP to firstname.lastname@example.org or 431-456-6711. Please let us know if you are planning to attend the luncheon so we can reserve enough tables.
What you say to friends is that in lieu of flowers, you would rather they attend a dutch treat lunch in her honor.
Ahead of time, find out from the restaurant the approximate cost of how much the average lunch costs, in case someone asks you'll want to know the answer. By talking to the manager or owner, you may be able to work out a set price for a three course lunches that has two options for the entree.