My youngest brother, a single father, is bringing his seven-year-old daughter to my daughter’s wedding in July and she asked to be the flower girl. She is a sweet child and we love her dearly, but she is difficult to manage. She never sits still. My husband is very frail and his health is not very good, so the thought of her jumping around our small house when they come to stay during the wedding is stressing us out.
Last time he called I suggested they stay at a motel, but my brother thinks it would be more fun — and cheaper — to stay with us the nights of the rehearsal dinner and wedding . As the mother-of-the-bride, frankly, I’ll have enough going on without having to worry about a seven-year-old and there won’t any other children her age. What should we do? Is there an etiquette for children at weddings?
–N.R., Watch Hill, RI