My question is about how to handle a the office flirt.
There is a gorgeous woman in my office who makes overly friendly, unwanted, and even salacious advances toward me.
Everyone knows we are both married so when coworkers see her sitting on my desk or rubbing my leg under the table I look the other way. When colleagues rib me, saying, “You lucky dog,” and want to know what’s going on, I tell the truth. Nothing. She’s the office flirt. How do I stop her advances and keep my job? She’s my boss.
- Women often take the lead in finding new couples to swing with, because it is less threatening when the woman makes the first advances and does the foreplay. Find out her intentions.
- Boundaries would need to be hashed out between the four of you to design the kind of relationship that works for all of you so that jealousy doesn't become an issue.
- If she thinks swinging will enhance her marriage, perhaps it will, but it will not solve the problem for you.
- Bringing up these two options may well put an end to your boss's lustful advances.