As much as I think I love my boyfriend, his bad habits annoy me. I point them out — time and again — by reminding him to put the toilet seat back down, shine his shoes, throw his used tissues away or not to scrape his plate at the dinner table, etc. Worst of all, he’s a hoarder.
Will he ever break these bad habits? I sound like a broken record complaining over and over about the petty ways he annoys me. Do you think he does them on purpose to get my attention?
–EB, Dorset, VT
- Don't beat yourself up about letting an annoyance get under your skin, just get back on track.
- Talk about what's really bothering you.
- Let him know what irritates you and find out what annoys him about your behavior.