What should we know about wedding registeries? We’re in our early thirties and getting married in the fall. Since our engagement party we’re already sending back engagement presents — from all over the country — that we didn’t need (or like).
–WK, Raleigh, NC
- Most newlyweds appreciate having new linens, especially if they had previously lived with a different person, so you may want to recycle linens used during a past romance. You can have these fresh towels and bedding monogrammed on your own to be sure you have the monogram the way you want it.
- Bar glasses and wine glasses - because of their fragility they are usually the most needed of all items. Order in sets of twelve - guests can buy them for you in pairs.
- Flatware: If you already have a kitchen set, add sterling silver (or plate) that you'll actually use, such as candle sticks, and serving pieces, as well as utensils.
- Kitchen appliances are useful, but register for those you will actually use: a wine cooler, toaster oven, blender, espresso machine, etc. Will you really use that Mixmaster more than every two years?
- Kitchen tools that you don't already have: You don't want to end up with four carrot scrapers and you still don't have a can opener.
- Kitchen linens: dish towels, potholders, and easy-care cloth napkins, placemats, and hand towels.
- Guests from the northeast and midwest will most likely spend more on your wedding present than guests living in the south or the west.
- With the average gift from a family member or good friend valued at $200, guests you're not as close to and coworkers will spend $100.
- So register for items in a wide price range from $12. to $2,000.
- Guests from the northeast are more likely to send checks or gift cards. Although Midwesterners are using checks and gift cards with growing frequency.
- In general, guests from the south and west will spend about a third less on a wedding gift.
- Younger guests are more apt to send a gift from your wedding register than older guests, who find it easier to send a check or gift card.
- 21% of millennials (27% woman and 16% men) surveyed said that they often couldn't afford to attend a wedding and send a wedding gift and so had to regret a few wedding invitations.
- Offer suggestions such as having guests go in on sharing the cost of an Airhub rental instead of paying for a hotel rooms.
- Also, let guests know (on your wedding website*) that they can contribute to your honeymoon for as little as $25 or $50, which gives a bit more flair to a gift than sending a whisk from the wedding registry.