My daughter has a huge heart and is very social. Once engaged, friends came from out of nowhere and of course she told them all they would be invited to her country club wedding. All of a sudden her small family wedding turned into a circus for 500 guests, most of whom my husband and I do not even know.
The hard part for her dad and me is that her younger sister had a lovely wedding with a 125 guests that seemingly went off without a hitch. But our older daughter’s dream wedding surpassed our budget. Her plan would have bankrupted us. She understands. Her fiancé understands.
Amazingly, we’ve managed to scale back the size of the wedding, simplify the venue, trim down the plans, and cut costs.
But now the bride and her fiancé are faced with the humiliation of having to disinvite guests who text wanting to know if they are still invited.
I understand that traditionally all guests invited to an engagement party are invited to the wedding, but it was not possible. They assume the invitation will be forthcoming and some have even sent presents from the bridal registry. (Perhaps hoping that its not too late to secure an invitation.)
Do we have to notify those who were invited to the engagement party but are not being invited to the wedding even though they have sent gifts that we’ve returned the gift to the sender or to the store? And do we include a note saying exactly what ……?
It’s extra work for me, but I feel they should not accept gifts from those who are not being invited to the wedding, and they should receive some kind of note explaining why the gift was returned. We are in need of your professional advice.
–Mother-of-the-Bride, Charleston, SC