About wedding invitation etiquette. Our daughter and her fiancé are insisting on including a reply card with their wedding invitation. It has a cut-off date for responding and a list of entree preferences: vegan, filet mignon, or halibut. Since the invitations will be received six weeks before the reception dinner, how do guests know that far in advance what they’ll want to eat?
If they came to our house for dinner, they certainly wouldn’t be given a choice of three entrees!
As the hosts, we should be able to serve one entree and have the caterer prepare a smaller amount of vegan entrees for those who don’t eat meat.
Why do we even need a reply card? Why can’t the guest write us a short note telling us whether or not they are attending? If they can’t write us a polite note, do we really want them at our daughter’s wedding?
–Anonymous, Savannah, GA
All invitations are courtesy of The Printery, Locust Valley, New York.