As a guest, do I toast the hostess and host on behalf of our side of the family? We’re having a holiday dinner at the home of our daughter-in-law’s parents for the first time. I don’t know what’s expected.
Does it matter whether my wife gives the host or do I have to? Public speaking is not my thing and under pressure I’m apt to stutter.
–JW, Providence, RI
- Make your toast as brief as possible.
- Only a sentence or two is needed at a holiday dinner.
- Rehearse your two or three sentences in the mirror ahead of time.
- Make eye contact with those assembled but certainly don't stare at the same the person the whole time.
- Handle nerves and don't fiddle with the hand that isn't holding your glass.
- You don't have to be a storyteller. Give a natural toast that sounds as though you sincerely appreciate spending time with all who have come together to celebrate...
- The important thing about giving a toast is to look at her or him to reply in gratitude.
Hold the glass by the stem
while you make your toast.