- But first talk to him suggesting that there are many options for treatment in addition to 12-step programs and residential treatments.
- You can have a positive impact on his motivation to learn new patterns of behavior.
- Addiction and shame go hand and hand. If your friend is to be saved, compassion from his friends and family may be the only thing that counteracts the isolating, stigmatizing, debilitating poison of shame.
- Shame and addiction are deeply intertwined. For example, alcoholics may be prone to shame by disposition and they may drink, in part, to cope with chronic shame and low self-worth. In addition, drinking can, in turn, cause shame, creating a vicious cycle. — Beverly Engel
Since you can’t have true compassion for him until you understand why he behaves the way he does, take the time to talk to him and listen. It will make you feel less angry that you’ve been put in this position.
- Don’t be one of those friends who has chosen to stay with him in denial about just how serious his problem is.
- Be compassionate by showing him respect and optimism.
- Keep reaching out to him.
After your initial conversation with the husband, make it clear to his wife that you have discussed the problem with him and that you will continue to encourage her husband to set boundaries for his behavior. But he must seek treatment.
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