• Home
  • Ask Didi
  • FAQs
  • How Tos
  • Be Your Best
  • Meet The Challenge
  • About Didi
  • “NEWPORT ETIQUETTE”
  • Home
  • Ask Didi
  • FAQs
  • How Tos
  • Be Your Best
  • Meet The Challenge
  • About Didi
  • “NEWPORT ETIQUETTE”
  • How to Get Out of A Social Obligation
  • Creative Etiquette Solutions

You may also be interested in:

What Are Prenups Good for?
Inviting Extended Family to A Baby Shower
What to Say about His Manspreading
How to Get Out of A Social Obligation

–L.E., New York, New York

Color me shocked. You mean you don’t want to spend a night with people you said you would sit with? Next time, tell the person that you have to check with either your husband, another friend or  couple, before committing. Then be sure to say, “I’ll call you, if we can join your table.”

Should she be so cheeky as to not get the hint and call you after you’ve essentially said, “I’ll call you, don’t call us.” say, “Oh, dear, I thought I said I would call you, if we were planning on being seated with you.” If she pushes, tell her you’re sitting with people who had already organized a table.

What about now that you’re stuck?  You have three options. Call the event person who organizes the sitting and say you do not want to sit with Mr. and Mrs. So-and-So, and to please not tell them. Professional event organizers deal with such requests more than you could imagine. Second, grin and bear it, but when she asks you about next year, tell her you will let her know, if you need a table.

Lastly, be honest and say, “Thanks for calling, but we actually have great fun taking our chances by being seated with people we don’t know. That’s how we make new friends.” Your brutal honesty might sting, but she’ll get it.

 

~Didi

Enjoy this post? Share it with others.

Please give us a try and subscribe to the NewportManners.com newsletter!

As you’ve shown an interest in Newport Manners & Etiquette, Didi Lorillard thought you may wish to subscribe. You can easily unsubscribe at any time. Thank you ever so much!

* indicates required

 

more_topics

Featured
"Party Chic"
Accepting A Compliment
Acknowledgements
Addressing
Addressing
Adult Child
Adult Children

see more…
Wedding
Who To Invite
Welcoming Dinner
Weddings
Wedding Registry
Wedding Protocol

see more…
Relationships
Adult Child
After the Break Up
Allergies
Breaking Up
Bullies
Children

see more…
Office/Business
Cubicle Etiquette
Dress Code & Grooming
E-Mail Etiquette
Employer-Employee
Interview Tips
Office Parties

see more…
Ask Didi
your étiquette question
Explore
Didi’s collection of responses
discover
How To...
POPULAR TOPICS
  • Codes + Conduct
  • Dilemmas
  • Awkward Situations
  • Entertaining
  • Wedding
  • Relationships
  • Manners
  • Tricky Conversations
  • Sticky Social Situations
  • Family
  • Dress Code
  • Conversation Etiquette
We only do well the things we like doing. ~Colette

Our Newsletter

As you've shown an interest in Newport Manners & Etiquette, Didi Lorillard thought you may wish to subscribe. You can easily unsubscribe at any time. Thank you ever so much!

* indicates required



 

  • Home
  • FAQs
  • How Tos
  • Be Your Best
  • Meet The Challenge
  • About Didi
  • “NEWPORT ETIQUETTE”
  • Sitemap
© 2014 All rights reserved. For permission to reprint, contact didi@newportmanners.com site design AtlanticGraphicDesign.com