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Naturally shy, it is hard for me to go to holiday parties because I’m not good at talking to strangers. How can I move past my shyness and just hang with new people?

–Charlotte, Brooklyn, NY

Get over yourself. Nobody over the age of thirteen is “naturally” shy. Have plenty to say.

Embrace what’s going on in the world and learn things to talk about. Subscribe to theSkimm.com to keep up with what’s happening and what other guests may be talking about — things to know about to help the conversation along. Give theSkimm three mintues a day and you’ll know more than most people in the room.

When starting a conversation, jump in with your hands at your side raised to your waist and palms up toward the ceiling to show you’re open to having an honest conversation.

Before going out, take in the TED.com talk Power Pose, by Amy Cuddy, to give yourself a long-lasting boost of confidence. Once you’ve watched Power Pose, you’ll know exactly what to do before any event or even a job interview — and what topics to bring up at your next holiday party.

~Didi