Male Grooming - Dyed Hair - Newport Manners

Male Grooming — Dyed Hair

My question is about male grooming and dyed hair.

Didi, how do I tell my man that he shouldn’t dye his hair? It looked OK up until a couple of years ago when a bald spot became very apparent on the top of his head. But now, really, who has dark brown hair hanging down from a big bald spot? He should wear his baldness as a crown and not be so vain. Anyone who looks at him knows his hair is colored to cover the grey.

–Name Withheld

As I am not an expert on male pattern baldness, or male grooming and dyed hair, this is merely my humble opinion.

People with dyed hair look in the mirror and identify with their younger self.

Dark brown hair is a big part of your man’s identity — including, possibly, his virility.

Many of us carry over our patterns from our 20s and 30s into later adulthood. We tend to look at faces, storing and retrieving what’s familiar.

That said, take a good sized hand mirror and have him look at the reflection of the back of his head in a bathroom mirror.

He cannot see the back and top of his head unless you show it to him. Give him a warm hug and tell him you love him and want him to stop dying his hair.

This is what you can say to him:

His dyed hair has become a habit. He doesn’t know how to stop coloring it.
Propose that he go to a good barber and have it shorn way down and the hair will grow in the color of his remaining natural hair.
Over time he’ll get used to going au naturel when he’s rid of the dyed hair look that makes wrinkled faces look even older.
Mention that dying his hair is not healthy for his scalp. Suggest that his baldness may well have been advanced by the harmful toxins in the hair dye.

If your man continues to dye the hair around his pattern baldness and has a mustache and beard, they should be dyed as well. Look at it this way. If the hair on his head is dyed, shouldn’t the rest of his body hair be dyed as well?