The wedding invitations and response cards are printed and ready to go. My Mom has decided to offer a choice of entrees to our wedding guests. Is it proper wedding etiquette to handwrite the selections on the back of the response card? In need of a quick response as invitations are ready to mail.
Wedding etiquette may be evolving and offering guests three options for an entree has been trending for quite a while, but its a bit like ordering take-out two months in advance
Personally, I wouldn’t offer a choice. Caterers these days are incredibly savvy about sufficiently preparing alternatives ahead of time to please every guest.
In other words, if you’re serving one main entree and the guest doesn’t eat red meat (if it is red meat, or fish if it is fish) then the guest asks the waiter if there is another alternate entree. Which is usually a chicken or vegan/vegetarian entree.
Yes, you can neatly handwrite the choices on the back of the response cards, if that’s the way you want to go. Truthfully, I think it is more elegant, and great fun, to surprise your guests. Who the heck knows what they’ll feel like eating in two months? I certainly don’t.
If you do handwrite the entree choices on the back of all those reply cards, make sure you use the same color ink that was used in the printing of the invitation.
As I said, in my opinion, be consistent with elegance and dignity on a wedding invitation. Give your guests the benefit of the doubt by dazzling them with a delicious menu.
Most guests with food sensitivities know to snack ahead of time, and have learned to eat their way around a groaning board or plated and seated dinner.
By the way, if you choose not to handwrite your entree options, you can always list them on your wedding website and have guests reply directly to register their choice.
Remember most guests with food allergies plan ahead and, like the rest of us, find if more amusing to be pleasantly surprised.
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