MIXED GENDER WEDDING PARTY
My question is about having a mixed genders wedding party. My finance thinks it would be silly for my BFF to be in my bridal party. He’s my best friend, after my husband, of course, and we’ve been through a lot together. He’s like a brother to me. How do we resolve this issue? I said he could have a best girlfriend as a groomswoman, but he doesn’t like the idea. He said she would have to dress like the other groomsmen and wouldn’t be invited to his bachelor party weekend and wouldn’t appreciate the tie he’s picked out for his groomsmen.
–Charlotte, Brooklyn, NY
Hi Charlotte,
Thank you for your question about having a mixed gender bridal party. Traditionally, in situations such as this–which are quite common, by the way–the bride would give her BFF the honor of having him do one of the readings during the ceremony. Just as the groom would do the same.
- He could also perform usher duties at the church (escorting single women to a pew and passing out the program).
- If there is a bridal party banquet table, he could be given a seat and/or asked to give a toast.
- He could also be invited to cut in on the groom during her second dance, after she’s danced for awhile with her father.
There are many creative ways to make the BFF feel special. At the end of the day, you don’t want to make a big deal out of this and make a fool of him; don’t make the BFF the joke of the wedding.
- Fit him in as the wedding couple sees fit.
- He would be identified at the wedding with the same boutonnière as the groomsmen, he just wouldn’t stand up at the alter with the groomsmen.
Happy to answer any further questions.
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at #917-816-0800
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

~Didi
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