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On the evite to our barbecue pool party for 30 guests we want to say No Kids Adults Only, what is the polite way to ask our friends with young children to leave them at home?

–P.L., Westfield, NJ

Any invitation should be happily worded and upbeat. Have a line under the RSVP info that reads something like this:  Ages 21+ Welcome. 

Let it be known through word-of-mouth that despite the swimming pool, you are not expecting to accommodate young kids and you don’t want to have to feel responsible for any underage drinking.

~Didi