–PK, Brooklyn, NY
- “Light Phone” – sets limits on time-stealing apps.
- “Digital Detox” packages – are available in luxury hotels ($295.)
- Set up mental speed bumps by putting a scrunchie or rubber band around your phone to make you stop and think before using.
- Or change the screen lock to one that asks three questions: Why now? What for? and What else?
- Be alone with your thoughts and pay more attention to your surroundings instead of your phone.
- Toss out apps that don’t make you happy.
- People who don’t charge their phones in their bedroom, use them less.
- Start with agreeing to stop charging phones in the bedroom.
- Take 24 hours during a weekend for a joint “trial separation” from your phone(s).
- The next step is a get-away-weekend without your six-inch glass-and-steel rectangles.
- Make a goal of one hour a day for cellphone use–perhaps picking up your phone only 20 times.
- When suddenly finding yourself sucked into your phone–self-correct.
Remind yourself that life is what you should be paying attention to and not the magical object that can order cannabis delivered to your door at midnight.
Look people in the eye and listen when they talk.
- Phubbing is snubbing the one you’re with.
- Hey, put down that cellphone! You’re snubbing me!
- Stop phubbing your partner.
- Get it into your head that phubbing is a bad, modern-day habit.
- 79% say phubbing hurts their ability to interact with their partners.
- Using a handset while with a partner undermines the quality of the relationship.
- Researches say phubbing is a relationship buster up there with money problems, bad sex and having kids.
- There are increasing numbers of people in long-term relationships that feel they must compete with their partner’s smartphone for attention.
- Are you a nomophobe (no-mobile-phone phobia)? Scared to be without your mobile phone?
- Keep the phone away from you on silent; for instance in a tote bag or backpack or up on a shelf.
- When you feel you have to check on something legitimately important, give an explanation to your partner first and then check your phone.
- Never be defensive when you get called out for technoference (the interference of technology in couple relationships)–it’s somebody’s way of telling you they’d like to connect in person.
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