- A transgender person would be identified by his or her first name, and if that’s not clear because she or he is introduced as Brook, Alex, Alexis, Jackie, Jamie, Kelly, Lee, or Leslie, Morgan, Pat, Robin, Taylor, etc., the combination of their hair style, makeup, and clothing might possibly give you a clue.
- So those who identify female would take the lead in introducing and shaking hands first.
- In an all women or all men situation, the person who knows the person introduces their friend or colleague, even if s/he may know him/her by reputation only.
- INTRODUCE YOURSELF: When the person you’re with forgets to introduce you, step forward and say your name along with a tidbit of information to connect you and perhaps get the conversation going. “Josh Goodrich, George and I work together at GL&C.”
Personal note: It irks me when I am in a professional situation and the husband (who shares my business interest) is introduced first, it feels disrespectful and I wonder if the wife’s feelings are hurt.
- In work situations, labels can be tricky. Is the person you’re with your boss, your underling, your coworker? Best to label him or her as your “colleague”; “We work together,” “We’re on the same team at …” “We used to both work at …” “We met at Stamford.”
- In social situations, labels can be much dicer. Apparently, it’s never “cool” to give a romantic unmarried relationship a label. Hopefully, at some point, after you’ve moved in together, you have the “What are we conversation,” about how to label your relationship to make it less confusing for new, as well as old, acquaintances. Even if the relationship isn’t “traditional” — we all know that everyone does intimacy differently. Sometimes the pace is confusing, sometimes you just know. But give us a clue: “I want you to meet my girlfriend, Amy Scott.” “Eric and I live together and he’s the father of my two kids.”
Social faux pas:
“It’s nice to meet you!”
- If you’re meeting someone for the first time, how do you know that it is nice to meet them? You don’t, unless …
- If your friend had previously told you how nice the guy is, then you can say, “Jake says you’re a great guy (a hard worker, a super good tennis player).”
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Accepting A Compliment