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One of my friends & I had a falling out about 4 months ago. We haven’t talked since. I found out from another friend that her father passed away today. Do I go to visitation or do I just send a card? I do not know how she would feel about me going. We had a pretty bad fight. Sending just a card seems so impersonal.

–Name withheld

If you wish to make up with your friend, then go to the visitation. If you just want to send a condolence card, do that. You are right, just sending a card does sound so impersonal. If you really feel that way, then go to the visitation. Consider this an opportunity to mend the friendship. If it doesn’t work, then you are off the hook because you’ll know you did the best you could do.

~Didi