My question is about the rudeness of mixing business with pleasure.
At a cocktail party celebrating a friend’s birthday an acquaintance approached my wife and me to explain that he had pledged a matching grant to a local non-profit, that the deadline was coming up fast, and if we contributed, our donation would be doubled? A good idea, but in our opinion not the right place.
Furthermore, it put us in an awkward predicament. A two-edged sword because my wife had previously asked him for a donation to her community outreach program. At that point, we didn’t know if he had made a contribution to her fundraiser. But that wasn’t the point, she hadn’t put him on the spot in a social setting, she had sent him an email followed up by an invitation to the benefit.
The acquaintance was pushing for a financial commitment in what was supposed to be a relaxed social setting. Didi, how would you have handled a dilemma such as this?
Some people are all business — even when on holiday. That’s who they are. That’s how they socialize.
The best response would have been to listen to him for two minutes and then say, “We really shouldn’t be having this discussion at George’s big celebration. Let’s meet for a drink or coffee.”
Chances are he won’t follow up. He was enjoying his moment. Boasting of his matching grant as a vehicle for socializing.
If he does invite you for a drink or coffee, your wife would have had time to find out if he had made a contribution to her fundraiser, and you can take if from there.
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