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My question is about unrequited love.

My boyfriend does not spend time with me because he says he loves his work too much. What should I do?

–ED, Harare, Zimbabwe

Unrequited love hurts. As you say, your boyfriend isn’t interested in you, so ask yourself: why would you want to spend time with someone who doesn’t want to be with you? If I were in your situation, I would forget about him. Ghost him — ignore him.

He’s not your boyfriend. Find somebody who wants to share their life with you. Someone who would move heaven and earth to make time to be with you.

If you’re desperately in love with him, have a talk to find out if there is something special he would like to do, if he could get time off. Then make a plan and stick to it. Be flexible once or twice should he say that he needs to postpone. But the third time he backs out out of the date, break off with him. Move on.

If you don’t value yourself, then he won’t value you either. Take a stand, but be flexible — to a point. Don’t let unrequited love torture you.

~Didi