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Every Valentine’s Day is the same: Should we bother to observe it? Should we celebrate by going out to dinner? A movie and take-home Chinese? We procrastinate until the last moment when our favorite restaurants are booked solid. Nobody wants to take a chance on Valentine’s Day for a bad experience by going to a new, expensive restaurant, which is exactly what happened last year. It is as if we sabotaged Valentine’s Day by accident but really on purpose, by not planning ahead.

–AJ, Seattle, WA

Hi AJ,

Can you do something entirely different for Valentine’s Day that will take you out of your rut? Or can you alternate the responsibility of planning Valentine’s Day and start by taking charge this year and making a reservation now, today?

You don’t want to make a romantic holiday a metaphor for your relationship. Can you try cooking a delicious dinner together paired with your favorite wines?

~Didi