–Jeff, Location Withheld
- On your excel spread sheet find a way to designate who writes the thank-you note to whom.
- In modern times, sending out a thank-you note upon receipt of a gift (or notification of a gift) is far more efficient.
- Older folks, especially, really like receiving the acknowledgment that their gift was received and is appreciated, sooner rather than later. (They often write saying, “I haven’t received a thank-you note for a wedding present and it’s been a year!”)
- The rule of thumb is that you have a year to send all your thank-you notes, but I recommend giving yourselves a six month deadline.
- And, no matter the design of the thank-you note, flat card or fold-over, always be sure to include a handwritten personalized line or two mentioning a brief description of the gift. And, when applicable, that you, also, wish to thank them for coming to your wedding.
For example: ” The two dinner plates you gave us completed our set. Thank you for your thoughtful gift!” Or, “We greatly appreciate the enamel picture frame and we’re looking forward to using it for one of our wedding photos.”
- Don’t bother taking your thank-you notes with you to write out during your wedding trip/honeymoon. They simply won’t get done.
- These days, some couples have a monogram designed to include both their first and last initials. The four letters are intertwined.
- When the bride and groom are both using the same last name they sometimes simply use the first initial of that last name as their signature motif. For instance, a pronounced G. These can often be found boxed online or in stores that sell stationery.
- Being even more creative, we also see a motif such as an anchor, shell, palm tree, two monkeys, sailboat, bug, that, perhaps, appeared on the save-the-date card (meaning anchor the date), cocktails napkins, etc. These can, also, be bought already boxed saving the expense of printing.
- Traditionally, the bride and groom would have their own note card (him) or fold-over notes (her) with their full name. Or the fold-over note or flat card, you would simply have printed: Mr. and Mrs. Jeffrey Stuart Greene.
- When the couple own a house or apartment, they may simply have their address on a notepaper or card, once again, so that both can use the same stationery. Quite convenient when the couple use different last names.
- The Printery in Oyster Bay (not to be confused with the company by the same name in Glen Cove), NY, has an exquisite selection of hand engraved stationery.
I’m not recommending hand engraved thank-you notes, I’m merely suggesting that you find your own style and then take it down a notch and have it replicated inexpensively at say, Reaves Engraving (scroll down). From the Printery, Oyster Bay, NY, just below:
Then go to ‘Social Stationery and Thank You Notes’ at Reavesengraving.com (in North Carolina), where you’ll see that you can customize your own personal formal notes, as well as be inventive. From Reaves Engraving:







Now to sending out those thank-you notes:
As to the time-frame, divide and concur. The sooner the two of you write out your thank-you notes, the better.
- When you have a message that you can use over and over customizing the same tone, such as: “Jeff joins me in thanking you for the beautiful wooden salad bowl,” writing thank-you notes isn’t as daunting of a task as one anticipates.
~Didi
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