Does joining an online dating site announce to the world that I am desperately seeking a husband? Obviously what I thought I once wanted is not my ex. I learned that hot and heavy doesn’t mean forever. I’ve looked at various online dating sites, but won’t I be at a disadvantage because I’m so publicly available?
–E.L., San Francisco
In general, women find online dating less frustrating and more rewarding than men. So go for it. What do you have to loose?
You have the advantage of vetting guys over the course of a dozen or more email messages until you discern the type of person you’re most compatible with through a process of a elimination. You may not be wasting your time frivolously.
Your criteria becomes more defined. A person who is as well educated or more highly educated than you and who has your same salary or greater, and whose favorite ice-cream is also Ben & Jerry’s Half Baked, sounds good to me.
A recent study found that men typcally have to send 25 messages to different women to get a response. A woman only has to send five to receive a reply. Leading researchers are to prone to believing that women have a much larger pool from which to select potential dates, mates, or lovers, than men.
In 2013 one popular dating site AreYouInterested, reported that a woman sending a message to a man in her age group has a 18% chance of receiving a response, whereas a man in the same age group has only a 4% chance of receiving a return message. Women clearly have a much larger pool from which to select potential dates, mates, or lovers than men, and can afford to be fussier about who they date.
According to Time magazine this week, U.S. the annual number of marriage ceremonies is on a steady decline. With the rate of marriages per 1,000 single women dropping 60% from 1970 to 2012, women are less likely to marry now than in the seventies.
Are women becoming pickier as they earn higher and higher degrees and more and more money? Makes sense to me.
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