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My fiancé has been experimenting with dyeing his hair and it is driving my crazy. I want to say something. Like I don’t care if you’re going gray but…  However, he is very sensitive about going prematurely gray. He has a lot of thick black hair everywhere, but it is turning faster than he can pluck the gray hairs out. I am hoping to convince him not to dye his hair before our upcoming wedding, because it doesn’t look natural. What should I say to my fiancé about dyeing his hair — before our wedding?

–G.T., Austin, TX

If you’re close enough to be getting married he’s your “true partner” — and you are able to discuss finances with him and make important decisions together — you can certainly talk to him about his hair color. He must know you know that he is going prematurely gray, if you’ve ever seen him with his shirt off. In order to make your relationship real, you have to get real.

Tell him you love him just the way he is — salt and pepper hair from head to toe. If he protests, treat him to a professional hair colorist as soon as possible. If need be, get a second or third opinion. If your loving words aren’t convincing enough, an experienced colorists can assist him with dyeing his hair.

~Didi